Many of us that have built ours use leaf and straight axle with matching wheels, That way as long as the tow vehicle can pass over a rock or something in the road, the trailer should be able to as well, Because it should have at least the same ground clearance if not a little more.
Another reason is cost, When I built mine the axle, leafs, hubs and all the mounting parts was just over $100, A Torsion axle was more than twice that and the Indi airbag set up can be very expensive.
I wont argue the sleeping part, But mine has a RTT on it
About the only thing at the moment I may change on mine is to add brakes, My axle had the mounts for it, I would only need new hubs and to install the electronics
As to the OP's question, I would keep the total width the same as your vehicle, 3500# axle seems to work well for many.