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I'm sorry for your loss. It's hard even when folks aren't completely themselves.Hard reminder today of the intersection between mental health and head trauma.
Learned a cousin took his life over the weekend. They are attributing it to possible CTE from years of head trauma made worse with injuries this past year (he has been competing in rodeo for something like 35 years, including several recent senior world champion titles.)
Contact sports (in his case the contact is with the ground) can have such lasting impacts.
Please protect your brain.
You are welcome to come cook and do dishes at my house any time for your practice.
Coasting is boring. Give me change, give me a problem to solve.I've been rolling this around a lot lately. If you aren't at least unhappy with your current situation, how do you grow? I see a lot of "accept who you are" " you are enough" type of advice from society but it just doesn't resonate with me. I find the most misery in being stagnant. Just being happy with things seems like a waste of time. What resonates with me at a cellular level is JP saying, "you should find the heaviest thing you can lift and carry it. " Am I retarded or do some of you feel like coasting is mentally unhealthy?
I know exactly what you mean, and I agree to an extent. I think if you're not progressing and growing as a person, then how do you know that you're the best version of yourself you can be?Am I retarded or do some of you feel like coasting is mentally unhealthy?
I have a few hobbies that challenge me that help keep me humble. Lately it's been woodworking again and it's been a fun challenge/problem to solve.I've been rolling this around a lot lately. If you aren't at least unhappy with your current situation, how do you grow? I see a lot of "accept who you are" " you are enough" type of advice from society but it just doesn't resonate with me. I find the most misery in being stagnant. Just being happy with things seems like a waste of time. What resonates with me at a cellular level is JP saying, "you should find the heaviest thing you can lift and carry it. " Am I retarded or do some of you feel like coasting is mentally unhealthy?
100% understand what you're saying. I've been in a major depression slump for probably the past year because of this.I've been rolling this around a lot lately. If you aren't at least unhappy with your current situation, how do you grow? I see a lot of "accept who you are" " you are enough" type of advice from society but it just doesn't resonate with me. I find the most misery in being stagnant. Just being happy with things seems like a waste of time. What resonates with me at a cellular level is JP saying, "you should find the heaviest thing you can lift and carry it. " Am I retarded or do some of you feel like coasting is mentally unhealthy?
Stay focused on the good in your life. You are a wealthy man when you look at your family.100% understand what you're saying. I've been in a major depression slump for probably the past year because of this.
Mostly my job... What I thought would be an amazing opportunity and way to constantly grow and learn has, after 5 years, turned into a dead end with no opportunity for growth and a pay raise system that leaves a lot to desire. But has also trapped me with a weird niche of experience that makes it damn hard to convince other possible employers I'm worth what I would need to support my family.
It's a wall I can't seem to get over. A plateau of growth and progress that I'm struggling to climb upwards from.
I had a coworker, who I'm good friends with, tell me he remembers the day when he "saw the light in my eyes for my job die..." I hadn't even realized why I was so pissed off and depressed for several months until he brought that up.
There is a lot more to this, but it is a dark rabbit hole that I need to keep myself out of right now.
I've had the same experience in my career multiple times. Each time some slight change in my role or some project has come up and I've been able to shift focus slightly and restart my progression.100% understand what you're saying. I've been in a major depression slump for probably the past year because of this.
Mostly my job... What I thought would be an amazing opportunity and way to constantly grow and learn has, after 5 years, turned into a dead end with no opportunity for growth and a pay raise system that leaves a lot to desire. But has also trapped me with a weird niche of experience that makes it damn hard to convince other possible employers I'm worth what I would need to support my family.
It's a wall I can't seem to get over. A plateau of growth and progress that I'm struggling to climb upwards from.
I had a coworker, who I'm good friends with, tell me he remembers the day when he "saw the light in my eyes for my job die..." I hadn't even realized why I was so pissed off and depressed for several months until he brought that up.
There is a lot more to this, but it is a dark rabbit hole that I need to keep myself out of right now.
I guess one of the reasons those statements don't resonate with me is that I do this👆pretty effectively.I'm constantly working on myself, but I compare who I am today with who I was yesterday.
Life will use you up. It's better to be used up in the pursuit of something meaningful.Probably older than most of you guys, but what has always helped my mental health is being grateful for what I have, both tangible and intangible. The best thing I have ever done is to decide what the most important thing is in my life. There are always priorities, but there can only be one number one. A man I truly revere recently said we should ask ourselves: "To whom or to what will I give my life?" Once you have answered that question, it is really just left to make your choices and actions correspond to what you believe will gain you the most stability, happiness, and connection with those around you. Sounds pretty simple when I type it - obviously, the implementation is a bit more involved - hence the reason for the thread.