Enough is enough. Grrr.

[Tacoma]

some of you might remember that my sister in law married an Irish fugitive. Shifty, immature, illegal bastard. Anyway, it turns out that he's been smacking her around. Didn't want their second kid and punched her in the stomach a few times, told her he hoped it died, that kind of thing. Punches her enough to leave bruises on a regular basis. Latest incident had him punching her in front of his dad and pushing her, right over the 2yr old, who nearly got stepped on.

I'm already going to Manhattan so I'm thinking a little trip over the river wouldn't hurt. That little sh*t needs to learn a few things I think.

Yay or nay? Discuss. Police will not be a problem, and I have skillz to deal with his buddies LOL

 

[wally]

I would say if it that bad why doesn't she do something about it? Don't get me wrong what he is doing is not right but if she does not puit a stop to it I do not think you doing anything will stop it. It might even make it worse for her.

 

[Meat_]

No. Because the large majority of the time she will defend him thinking it's ok and her fault so if you thump him she will be mad at you and may even defend him physically. You need to turn him in and get her to a support group or therapist so she can start to figure out that it's not supposed to be that way.

If you have to hang out and catch some of the abuse on your cell phone or at least witness it, then the police HAVE to arrest him

 

[Rusted]

How come she is still with him? Sounds like you need to put her in the passenger seat and take her home.

 

[Bone Down]

I would say if it that bad why doesn't she do something about it? Don't get me wrong what he is doing is not right but if she does not puit a stop to it I do not think you doing anything will stop it. It might even make it worse for her.

I think that if it is all ready this bad, short of his death, reformation would only make things worse.

I am all for the smack down, but I think that it is time to pack the sis and the kids and bring her here, she needs to send this fool packing, and start a life with a person whom actually gives a crap about others.

Then the smack down can commence on future trips to NYC.

Sorry your sis has to deal with scum of this nature.

 

[ALF]

How come she is still with him? Sounds like you need to put her in the passenger seat and take her home.

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Agreed KICK HIS ASS and get her out of the situation, the windshield time on the way back should give you enough time to talk some sense into her.

 

[Tacoma]

I'm thinking along the lines of ALF. RIght now she's in the classic situation: no job, no money, and DEPENDENT. My wife and are discussing helping her out...

My plan is to beat his ass a little, tell him why, and these are his options: a. STOP and never do it again, or b. man up and leave her, if he doesn't want to be with her. Quit putting her through this crap.
As to it getting worse, if her uncles find out about it, he's a dead man.

eh, we'll see. She's definitely not defending him, and is considering the local shelters. In Queens, NY?!?! maybe not better than taking a shot now and then. At any rate we'll be talking.
In NY they have to arrest someone if they get called out... but since he gets paid cash every day, no money=no apartment=no good. Sucks to be her, I guess, she's figured an awful lot out over the last little bit.

 

[Meat_]

It's his sis in law, BIG difference on how much say Tacoma has with her

 

[Meat_]

I'm thinking along the lines of ALF. RIght now she's in the classic situation: no job, no money, and DEPENDENT. My wife and are discussing helping her out...

My plan is to beat his ass a little, tell him why, and these are his options: a. STOP and never do it again, or b. man up and leave her, if he doesn't want to be with her. Quit putting her through this crap.
As to it getting worse, if her uncles find out about it, he's a dead man.

eh, we'll see. She's definitely not defending him, and is considering the local shelters. In Queens, NY?!?! maybe not better than taking a shot now and then. At any rate we'll be talking.
In NY they have to arrest someone if they get called out... but since he gets paid cash every day, no money=no apartment=no good. Sucks to be her, I guess, she's figured an awful lot out over the last little bit.

Good, put him in jail, load her up (with the Rockwells) and get her out of that sh!thole

 

[scoutabout]

Uhh, why are you posting this? Kick his a**.

 

[I Lean]

I had to vote "maybe". My reasoning is this....a lot of battered women are still attached to the knucklehead. Priority one, get her away from him. Once she's not going to be able to watch/intervene, kick away.

Are you bad-ass enough to not get your ass handed back to you, despite being in the right? I've heard the Irish have tempers....

 

[Brett]

Kick his ass, sea bass

 

[Milner]

Make the reports and get her out of there....He will not stop, and as has been said, she is attached to him and wil likely defend him/no testify against him....It is a VERY sad situation, but she can not see it until she is out of the situation for a while....As a guy, it is hard to understand, but....
I have plenty of resources to help her out if you get her back her....Just let me know.

 

[carsmell]

All I can say is I feel bad when this crap happens to people.Just a little bit from experence be sure to take care of your own ass and your immediate family its hard to help people should'nt be but sometimes they refuse help and drag you down in the process

 

[yellowbronco]

Kick his ass, sea bass

Uhhhhh.....Seabass and the fellas offered to pick up our check.

 

[utahxjer]

If you did go over there and beat him down, you better not leave her there. Because she'll be the one to pay for it....

SHE needs to make the decision to leave. Talk to her, tell her you can help her, but ultimately it won't stop until she decides to leave.

 

[chadr]

Has she told you about the abuse? If so, take her to the police with her bruises and file a complaint. Then take her and the kids home. Defend her from the home front here in Utah, but make sure the law is on your side first.

Just my 0.02

 

[crazyyo]

you need to do a triple S ....................SHOOT SHOVLE SHUT UP ...........there is no reforming this kinda guy once he has hit her he always will no matter what you do to him ..........get her out

 

[rockreligious]

Unfortunatly the women keep going back to the abuser, I couldnt tolerate my sister getting abused.. If you give him a good beat down she will probably be punished for it..I would probably tell her uncle, and let the punk-a$$ Irishman dissapear.

or..if you think that shes had enough, and he is here illigally, have him brought up on charges, then force deportation...probably complicating if they have a kid together.

 

[Cody]

Man, I've never seen so many grown men think that violence is a fair solution to any problem...or even that violence is a solution for violence. it's a cycle people. Rise above it. There are more effective ways to solve the problem. I've yet in my young years witnessed violence solve any problem. If you want to be a tough guy and show your manhood, get into the ring. Hell, Olly is looking for people to fight him--give him a call. If you're fighting to solve the problem, then you are part of the problem.

You need to notify the appropriate authorities and force her to leave. Some sort of family intervention--if she doesn't want to leave then you can't make her but I bet the courts can place the children in a less abusive home and that sure as hell will get through to at least one of them.

Cody