You are on the right track. One from the battery, and one to the starter. The ignition wire you speak of is really the original starter ("crank") wire. The forth, and last, wire is a ground wire. If you use a ford relay, it should be grounded through the mount so then you would only have four wires.
So the way it works on a normal relay is pin 85 and 86 run the magnet. Hook your ground and old crank wire to them. Then hook your FUSED battery wire to pin 30. Use a fuse as large as the relay is rated for. If using a ford relay, use a 30 amp. I think they are 50 amp relays, but you don't want to fuse that high. The last pin is 87. it will go to the starter solenoid. You may have a five wire relay, in that case the fifth would be pin 87a. Just leave that one alone. It's for normally closed relay operation, which you are using normally open, or pin 87.
The ford relay is similar, but you will have two large posts and one or two small posts, then the relay mount, for the ground side. The battery and the new crank wire hook to the larger posts and the old crank wire hook to one of the smaller posts. Right off, I think you can hook it to either one, but that may not be right. Hook it to one and if it doesn't work hook it to the other. Some one else will have to chime in and clear that up.