Mental health: it’s ok to talk.

[Cody]

BROSEPH!!!

Wouldn't it be Bromigo?

I've either completely lost touch with reality or I've completely killed my emotional side. I have so much big life stuff happening all at once, with very little support around me to do it in the time or way it needs to be done, and I'm just floating along like nothing is happening with an odd calm and peace. I've just compartmentalized each individual thing, I do it at the speed I'm able to handle physically and emotionally, then move on to the next one. If you ask me anything about one of the other massive things happening, I have no answer. It's just not on my plate. I'll deal with that when I deal with that.

One foot in front of the other and head down until it's all done or I go completely and officially off the rails. Or both. Probably both ha ha.

Cody

 

[ID Bronco]

Wouldn't it be Bromigo?

I've either completely lost touch with reality or I've completely killed my emotional side. I have so much big life stuff happening all at once, with very little support around me to do it in the time or way it needs to be done, and I'm just floating along like nothing is happening with an odd calm and peace. I've just compartmentalized each individual thing, I do it at the speed I'm able to handle physically and emotionally, then move on to the next one. If you ask me anything about one of the other massive things happening, I have no answer. It's just not on my plate. I'll deal with that when I deal with that.

One foot in front of the other and head down until it's all done or I go completely and officially off the rails. Or both. Probably both ha ha.

Cody

I used to do this with another business we had, but long term it will hurt you and wear you down. Be careful.

 

[STAG]

I know this thread is geared towards depression side of mental health, but I gotta say, the amount of seething hate, and anger I have for a coworker is at absolutely mentally-unhealthy levels. Everything he does pisses me off. We’re such a small company that he can’t really go to another crew, and I’ve committed to the boss that I’ll stay until this project is done, so for now we’re stuck together.

We ride in the work truck together and it’s gotten to the point to we don’t say a single word to each other during the 30 minute drive to and from the jobsite and minimal communication on the jobsite.

I try to start every morning with a positive attitude but even the act of him being late in the mornings and me having to wait for him sets me off.

I’ve never been one to have a short fuse or to snap at someone, and I’m not a ‘hardass’ at all, but I’ve absolutely pictured fistfight scenarios and that I’d give it my all just because I’m fueled by hatred for him.

#I’mLikeAnakinTurningIntoDarthVader
#letTheHateFlowThroughYou

 

[Tonkaman]

I know this thread is geared towards depression side of mental health, but I gotta say, the amount of seething hate, and anger I have for a coworker is at absolutely mentally-unhealthy levels. Everything he does pisses me off. We’re such a small company that he can’t really go to another crew, and I’ve committed to the boss that I’ll stay until this project is done, so for now we’re stuck together.

We ride in the work truck together and it’s gotten to the point to we don’t say a single word to each other during the 30 minute drive to and from the jobsite and minimal communication on the jobsite.

I try to start every morning with a positive attitude but even the act of him being late in the mornings and me having to wait for him sets me off.

I’ve never been one to have a short fuse or to snap at someone, and I’m not a ‘hardass’ at all, but I’ve absolutely pictured fistfight scenarios and that I’d give it my all just because I’m fueled by hatred for him.

#I’mLikeAnakinTurningIntoDarthVader
#letTheHateFlowThroughYou

Which one of you has seniority?

Can you just leave his ass when he rolls up late?

I’m too spiteful to hold it in. I love crushing souls by outperforming them, climbing the success ladder and looming over them for their whole career 😈

 

[STAG]

Which one of you has seniority?

Can you just leave his ass when he rolls up late?

I’m too spiteful to hold it in. I love crushing souls by outperforming them, climbing the success ladder and looming over them for their whole career 😈

I have seniority. I’m technically the jobsite superintendent, if you can call it that for a single crew. He’s a laborer that’s turning into an operator.

He has ‘immunity’ because his dad has worked here for 20 years.

I can leave him, and have been instructed to do so and have in the past, but it adds to the tension between he and I when I do.

Even my boss today who worked on the jobsite with us said “I see why you have such a problem with him”.

 

[Tonkaman]

I have seniority. I’m technically the jobsite superintendent, if you can call it that for a single crew. He’s a laborer that’s turning into an operator.

He has ‘immunity’ because his dad has worked here for 20 years.

I can leave him, and have been instructed to do so and have in the past, but it adds to the tension between he and I when I do.

Even my boss today who worked on the jobsite with us said “I see why you have such a problem with him”.

I enjoy torturing guys like that. I’ll put the pressure on them until they break. Eventually he will make an ass out of himself, or screw up bad enough he loses immunity.

Keep smiling.

 

[Herzog]

I enjoy torturing guys like that. I’ll put the pressure on them until they break. Eventually he will make an ass out of himself, or screw up bad enough he loses immunity.

Keep smiling.

This is the way. Always let them dig their own grave.

 

[STAG]

Well they all got this text Friday

 

[Kevin B.]

I know this thread is geared towards depression side of mental health, but I gotta say, the amount of seething hate, and anger I have for a coworker is at absolutely mentally-unhealthy levels. Everything he does pisses me off. We’re such a small company that he can’t really go to another crew, and I’ve committed to the boss that I’ll stay until this project is done, so for now we’re stuck together.

We ride in the work truck together and it’s gotten to the point to we don’t say a single word to each other during the 30 minute drive to and from the jobsite and minimal communication on the jobsite.

I try to start every morning with a positive attitude but even the act of him being late in the mornings and me having to wait for him sets me off.

I’ve never been one to have a short fuse or to snap at someone, and I’m not a ‘hardass’ at all, but I’ve absolutely pictured fistfight scenarios and that I’d give it my all just because I’m fueled by hatred for him.

#I’mLikeAnakinTurningIntoDarthVader
#letTheHateFlowThroughYou

I have one of these. I utterly loathe this fellow. He's one of those that doesn't know a damned thing, doesn't do a damned thing, what he does do he invariably screws up, has the work ethic of a morally compromised badger, and somehow this cretin manages to skate around under the radar and keep his job because my department is too dysfunctional (and understaffed) to do anything about him. This fellow took most of a year off on disability recovering from shoulder surgery (he works a desk job just like me). One of my union reps took photos of him working at a hardware store, stocking shelves, during the same period he was drawing disability pay from the company because he was supposedly too deep into recovery to type on a keyboard. Nothing happened.

He drives me into an absolute rage. I ended up telling my boss that I'm done talking to him, I'm done cleaning up his messes, I'm just gonna pretend he doesn't exist because if I don't I'm gonna be the one that gets fired. It's better since I left that shift and I don't have to see his stupid face every day, but it still drives me nuts that this walking goatrope is drawing a paycheck and soaking up a spot on the seniority list and doing nothing. The fact that he still has a job is a serious and perpetual blow to my morale, but at least I have the pleasure of knowing that if he's still around they definitely won't be firing me...

I feel your pain. Don't slug the guy, it ain't worth it.

 

[STAG]

I have one of these.

My guy also received wage-pay from work for several months while not working due to a non-work related injury he had happen as well. My boss paid him wage just because my boss is a good guy. (A few of you RME’ers know him)

I also learned Friday morning that my person-of-anguish isn’t even allowed to talk to our HR lady anymore because of the way he insults her to her face. She told me she almost quit over his comments. How bad of a person do you have to be to not even be allowed to talk to HR.

 

[Hickey]

My guy also received wage-pay from work for several months while not working due to a non-work related injury he had happen as well. My boss paid him wage just because my boss is a good guy. (A few of you RME’ers know him)

I also learned Friday morning that my person-of-anguish isn’t even allowed to talk to our HR lady anymore because of the way he insults her to her face. She told me she almost quit over his comments. How bad of a person do you have to be to not even be allowed to talk to HR.

Dang that sucks. I absolutely love my HR person. We have a couple guys like your guy, and my HR has pulled me back from the edge a few times. Talking to her about my frustration with these two dipsjits has helped me a lot.


One of them got hit by a car in a Walmart parking lot, and that helped too. 😄

 

[Spork]

The co-worker I struggled with got fired a month ago... Life is good now. It's been coming for about 7 years, For my sanity my attitude became it's not my problem. Something not getting done that was in his queue, talk to my boss and he can prioritize his workload and I'm more than willing to help if the boss needs me to. When I complete the task that had been sitting in his queue for 2 months in 5 minutes it just helps show what kind of employee he was.

 

[glockman]

That sucks Chance. I hope your boss sticks with that text and lets the problem child walk themselves out of a job.

I had a problem child (who was 55) for a few years until my boss took him last year so I wouldn't fire him. I spent WAY too much of my off time thinking about how to make that shitbag do the bare minimum. The amount of energy I spent trying to get my lowest performer to do the least amount of work was ridiculous. It changed my management strategy. I now spend almost zero time with low performers other than to tell them where they didn't meet my expectations. I spend all my time with my high performers letting them know how much I appreciate them doing their jobs and doing them well. It makes me way happier and I make sure to let the whole team know that I remember underperforming at compensation review and I act accordingly.

 

[dutchman]

I have one of these. I utterly loathe this fellow. He's one of those that doesn't know a damned thing, doesn't do a damned thing, what he does do he invariably screws up, has the work ethic of a morally compromised badger, and somehow this cretin manages to skate around under the radar and keep his job because my department is too dysfunctional (and understaffed) to do anything about him. This fellow took most of a year off on disability recovering from shoulder surgery (he works a desk job just like me). One of my union reps took photos of him working at a hardware store, stocking shelves, during the same period he was drawing disability pay from the company because he was supposedly too deep into recovery to type on a keyboard. Nothing happened.

He drives me into an absolute rage. I ended up telling my boss that I'm done talking to him, I'm done cleaning up his messes, I'm just gonna pretend he doesn't exist because if I don't I'm gonna be the one that gets fired. It's better since I left that shift and I don't have to see his stupid face every day, but it still drives me nuts that this walking goatrope is drawing a paycheck and soaking up a spot on the seniority list and doing nothing. The fact that he still has a job is a serious and perpetual blow to my morale, but at least I have the pleasure of knowing that if he's still around they definitely won't be firing me...

I feel your pain. Don't slug the guy, it ain't worth it.

I know this is supposed to be a serious thread, but a couple of the insults here

 

[Cody]

Not to diminish your issues, but try running a building full of bartenders and kitchen staff. An entire staff full of those people ha ha.

 

[jeeper]

Not to diminish your issues, but try running a building full of bartenders and kitchen staff. An entire staff full of those people ha ha.

When we were looking at starting a new business/franchise, we paid very close attention to the number of employees we would have to have to operate.
One of the companies required weekly interviews and hiring sessions. I realized quickly that was not the business for us.

 

[Cody]

When we were looking at starting a new business/franchise, we paid very close attention to the number of employees we would have to have to operate.
One of the companies required weekly interviews and hiring sessions. I realized quickly that was not the business for us.

And people wonder why there is such a trend in quick service and fast casual towards automated ordering systems. You may not enjoy punching in your order, but at least have some empathy towards the people that have had to deal with hiring and training the knuckleheads that were typically doing that job lol.

 

[STAG]

Not to diminish your issues, but try running a building full of bartenders and kitchen staff. An entire staff full of those people ha ha.

He was on time and only pissed me off 3 distinct times that I can recall today. It was a good day.

 

[STAG]

He got himself fired today 🥳

 

[mbryson]

He got himself fired today 🥳

Good on your bossman! Holding people accountable is how people learn. I apparently like to learn by getting hit in the side of a head by a 2x4 but I do ultimately learn.