I asked my wife this morning what hobbies we have in common, she quickly said,"NOTHING". This coming from a women that I started chasing when I was 15 and now I am 50. Thats a long time to have nothing in common.
We spend a ton of time together, but she is the type of women that if I ask her to go camping, she is in for a day or two unless she can get a shower. If I ask her if she wants to go riding, shes in, come to watch us race, shes in, back packing, shes in. She will do anything me and the kids want to do. She is pretty easy going. Once the kids are all gone then we will probably start finding things to do with each other only.
I was told once that there are three stages of sex in a marriage. First, takes place in the first year of marriage and its called Every And Anywhere Sex. It takes place every and anywhere. Second is Bedroom Sex. It goes from year 2 to year 10 and it takes place only in the bedroom. The last is Hallway Sex. It takes place in the hallway as you pass each other and as you do, you say, "Screw You", as you go by. I hope I never get to stage three like so many others.
There is nothing we enjoy more than being with our family, especially now that I have a grandson. When we go on vacation, we take everyone because we love being together as a whole family. She keeps telling me that when we are older and alone, I will have to take ballroom dancing lessons with her. I told her to find a gay boyfriend. She told me there are lots of straight men that would take their wife ballroom dancing. I asked her to name two. She could only come up with one name and I question his manliness.
I think there are stages in a marriage that require different amounts and types of "together time". When my daughter was younger, we spent a lot of time at cheer and dance competitions. My wife and daughter went on their trips that included shopping time somewhere. My boys and I would hit Moab or some other fun place without the girls but then we would get back and do things as a whole family. In the next few years our lives are going to go through a big change. All my kids will be gone and my wife and I will need to start traveling, biking, driving, and all those other things that end in ing together. Working from home gives me all kinds of time to spend with my wife. I doubt there are many out there that spend more time with their wife than I do. We go to lunch nearly every single day. I drive her here and there every day. She will always ask me to drive her somewhere and I drive her.
I guess what I am saying is, everyone is different, every relationship is different. What keeps one couple together and happy is not the same for everyone. I'm old fashioned I guess. I committed to my wife and marriage for life and beyond. The grass in most cases is not greener on the other side. Its only a different shade of green. It doesn't matter how smoking hot some other women is, somewhere, someone is tired of her shit too. You sacrifice and you make it work, even if (gulp), you have to take some ballroom dance lessons. Besides that, my junk would look good in tights, just saying.