James K
NO, I'm always like this
- Location
- Taylorsville, Ut
shudda up youIf she'd only known.....
shudda up youIf she'd only known.....
Well I guess I'll post up...
I guess I'll start off by saying that I'm 22 and I'm getting married in 2 days. I couldn't be happier. I can definitely see that the Utah culture is to get married young... But I can honestly say that the churches teachings have nothing with me getting married at this time in my life... I always thought that I would get married a lot later and I think I could have been happy with that too, but I know that I have found the one person that I feel like myself around and everything just feels right about it. I love her and have no desire to be with anyone else... I have a great job and so does she and we both have great goals and plans to achieve them together. We are both in school, and have no plans or desires to produce offspring any time real soon. We want to adjust to being married and get through school before we rush into anything. I have no doubts that she is not mature and I am not even the slightest bit nervous that it just isn't going to work out. I guess that is the main reason I have chosen to get married "so young." I have never felt more confident about anything. I have no doubts that by getting married she will enhance who I already am (and yes I do feel like I know who I am and what I want in life) and help me to do better.
...Just my side of the story
I've been back on the scene for almost two years now and I totally know what you mean. Having been that guy at one point in time being hounded by the woman I know to never...ever...allow that to happen ever again.
Finding single women, without kids, financially secure is a chore to say the least. Screwed up Mormon girls with children and no financial plan are a dime a dozen in this state...no thanks! I'm glad we decided to be smart and not reproduce immediately.
If you go out "looking" for a girl then you're probably going to be dissapointed with the results.
That is true you don't find "love" it finds you.
good luck with that whole tow rig buggy thing
...3 were 21-22--no baggage. Had no idea of who they are. They think they do, but you dig a little deaper and it's all theory. I thought I had things figured out reasonably well when I was that age too so in a couple years I'm sure they'll be ok. But, we're in totally different places in life. I had nothing in common with them. Talking to them was like talking to a drying wall of paint...
Would anyone be offended if I rant about people who rant about other people getting married too young while simultaneously complaining that all the good chicks are taken?
Perhaps my viewpoint is biased. I can see lots of successful marriages that were formed when they were young--and I applaud you. I really do. But, if you were in my shoes you would see a different world. I'm almost 27 and I would say that of the last 10 girls i've dated they break down like this.
3 were 21-22--no baggage. Had no idea of who they are. They think they do, but you dig a little deaper and it's all theory. I thought I had things figured out reasonably well when I was that age too so in a couple years I'm sure they'll be ok. But, we're in totally different places in life. I had nothing in common with them. Talking to them was like talking to a drying wall of paint.
6 were 23-28. 4 divorced. 3 with at least 1 kid. A couple of them were interesting, but had baggage (which isn't necessarily a deal breaker) that prevented our lifestyles and schedules to permit anything other than hanging out once in awhile.
1 was/is 33. Divorced, 2 kids (11, 9). Pretty freakin cool actually but has her hands full raising her kids and supporting herself. Every other week is a no go since she has her kids, and being that I'm not exactly father material I'm not going to go hang out like a replacement dad during those weeks.
so when 50% of the dating pool is divorced, and 50% have kids, you begin to form oppinions about the nature of marriage--especially in Utah. Maybe thats why my viewpoint is skewed the opposite direction.
I cant tell a HUGE difference in the marrige conflict between utah and colorado. Meaning, while living in Colorado there are A LOT of divorced people with several kids. Its unbelievable, I dont know if its getting married to young or that Colorado has a very good social scene and TONS of temptations around every corner. Since I have lived in Utah I have noticed that there is an UNBELIEVABLE pressure to get married and pop out a few kids in a very short amount of time and very young. I never noticed this much of a trend in Colorado.
While stats say 40% of those married at younger ages will divorce, and only 24% of those older will divorce... How many over 25 will never marry? I know a handful of 30+ year olds that have never married. Say 10% never, will, so your now at 34% of 25+ year olds will not have a sucsessful marriage. Now figure the fact that some of that 40% would have also divorced if they waited longer... afterall age can't account for all of that 40% number. Before long your numbers are bunk... its all relative.
Well I guess I'll post up...
I guess I'll start off by saying that I'm 22 and I'm getting married in 2 days. I couldn't be happier. .... I love her and have no desire to be with anyone else... I have a great job and so does she and we both have great goals and plans to achieve them together. We are both in school, and have no plans or desires to produce offspring any time real soon. We want to adjust to being married and get through school before we rush into anything. I have no doubts that she is not mature and I am not even the slightest bit nervous that it just isn't going to work out. I guess that is the main reason I have chosen to get married "so young." I have never felt more confident about anything. I have no doubts that by getting married she will enhance who I already am (and yes I do feel like I know who I am and what I want in life) and help me to do better.
Cody's just doomed to be the grumpy old man that sits on his front porch and throughs beer cans at the nieghbor kids if the walk on his lawn
So want happened with the girl you were talking to the other night??