6 pages since yesterday??? WOW
Amigo, You definitely pushed our buttons. I think you got such an overwhelming response because a lot of people here really pride themselves on being friendly. I'm of the opinion that the vast majority of us here are.
I'll take a little different perspective on things as I have relocated several times in my life. The first few times I had the attitude that it was everybody else's job to make friends with me. I'm a nice guy, willing to help out, like to have a good time. General qualities of a good friend that everyone wants to hang out with, right. I should be able to find people just like my old friends. So I thought.
I found the reality to be that most people had already filled their need to fill friendships. I didn't take into account the fact that my old friends had known me for years and the way they treated me was based years of gaining trust.
So I after some experience I got it in my head that it was my own responsibility to introduce myself and initiate friendships. I shouldn't expect to be instant friends with someone like a "just add water" cup of cocoa. It would probably be a while before I could expect to have some good friendships similar to those I had before.
I found it infinitely more productive to initiate friendships myself. It definitely put me out of my comfort zone, but it was definitely worth it.
Finally I added one more ingredient to my philosophy. I try to make it a point to introduce myself to anybody new in any situation I am in, even if I feel like the new guy myself. Hopefully I can help make their transition just a bit better than mine was.
So Amigo, I can't make a judgement whether it was you or them as I wasn't there. It really doesn't matter. What does matter is what you do about it. I hope you will keep wheeling, and keep meeting people until you find a group that fits.
Amigo, You definitely pushed our buttons. I think you got such an overwhelming response because a lot of people here really pride themselves on being friendly. I'm of the opinion that the vast majority of us here are.
I'll take a little different perspective on things as I have relocated several times in my life. The first few times I had the attitude that it was everybody else's job to make friends with me. I'm a nice guy, willing to help out, like to have a good time. General qualities of a good friend that everyone wants to hang out with, right. I should be able to find people just like my old friends. So I thought.
I found the reality to be that most people had already filled their need to fill friendships. I didn't take into account the fact that my old friends had known me for years and the way they treated me was based years of gaining trust.
So I after some experience I got it in my head that it was my own responsibility to introduce myself and initiate friendships. I shouldn't expect to be instant friends with someone like a "just add water" cup of cocoa. It would probably be a while before I could expect to have some good friendships similar to those I had before.
I found it infinitely more productive to initiate friendships myself. It definitely put me out of my comfort zone, but it was definitely worth it.
Finally I added one more ingredient to my philosophy. I try to make it a point to introduce myself to anybody new in any situation I am in, even if I feel like the new guy myself. Hopefully I can help make their transition just a bit better than mine was.
So Amigo, I can't make a judgement whether it was you or them as I wasn't there. It really doesn't matter. What does matter is what you do about it. I hope you will keep wheeling, and keep meeting people until you find a group that fits.
